TAKE RESPONSIBILITY

Today is the beginning of the rest of your life. So let’s take it straight to the point. To move on in life, and make the best out of the rest of your life, you must accept the fact that as a human being you are capable of mistakes, even stupid mistakes. So please do not get involved in the blame game today. The idea that whenever things go wrong, it must be him, her or them, but never your fault is worrisome, and antithetical to self-improvement. “Oh she/he made me do it,” “he led me into it,” “if she had explained it well, I wouldn’t be in this mess.” “You were over speeding that’s why you couldn’t wait for me to make a u turn.” “You were driving too slowly that’s why you made me hit your rear.” “The lecturer hates me, that’s why I failed the exam.” “The querry wasn’t because I was late; the manager doesn’t like me.” The list goes on. You know what I’m talking about. Excuses, blame game, passing the buck. It is often our default position. So whenever anything happens, the first instance is to blame someone else. We blame government for our woes, yet others under the same government are doing well without government incentives. When we give excuses for our failure or blame others for our faults and wrong doings, we lose the lesson the incident was intended to teach us. Benjamin Franklin said that those that are good for making excuses are seldom good for anything else. That’s because they spend too much time finding other people to blame, and too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being. Learn to take responsibility for your actions and inactions. Remember, the circumstances of life, the events of life, and the people around you in life do not make you the way you are; they only help you discover who you are; they reveal who you are! Look at it from the positive perspective, the ashes of your failure can be turned into granites to build you a strong future. It all depends on your attitude. Accepting your mistakes does not reduce your worth. Be bold and take responsibility. That is the road to recovery and making the best out of the rest of your life.

DON'T GIVE UP

I often heard people lament how meaningless they thought their life was, and they seem to wallow in obvious frustration and contempt of whatever life holds for them. Having lost the flair and flavour for an exiting life, they appear grumpy, irritated, and easily angered. Moreover, they look up to people and things to find meaning to life in order to reignite the passion there of. Unfortunately because they look up to the wrong source for help, all they hear around them are information that leads to further loss of joy, because your outlook in life depends on what, where, or who you look up to. When you look up to people who themselves are gasping for breath due to their own frustrations, they can only give you what they have. In order to console you, they suck you into their world where they flock together and form pity parties where they remind each other of the problem and the sheer impossibility of a turnaround. They all talk problems, hardship and difficulties, and confess that it won’t get any better, and surely their confession becomes their possession! Sadly, asking for explanation from the wrong source, feeds the inquirer with wrong information whose application leads to error and frustration, so the vicious cycle repeats itself. Bear in mind you are not an accident. There is a blue print for success and stop looking up to people for answer to your life's question, and stop confessing that it won’t get better for you, then look inward and upward for answer, you might see a turnaround sooner. There is a divine purpose and appointment to your life! However, neglect of divine purpose and appointment results in life's disappointment and frustration. Count your blessings, and be grateful. Remember, misery results when mercy is denied. Stop denying your blessings because as long as you continue to believe and confess that you are not blessed, you may likely continue to manifest it. Keep on doing the good thing you are doing; there is a turnaround for you if you don’t give up. Keep in mind that winners don’t quit and quitters don’t win!

ADVICE TO LADIES ESPECIALLY THOSE IN THEIR TWENTIES

* Guys love to marry an Independent and Matured... lady... So instead of sitting there and waiting to be bluffed by a guy, focus on getting a career that would take you out of the house wife category... . * Never let the sweet talks of guys deceive you, most times they just want to go between your legs and run off thereafter. . *Remove the mentality from your mind that guys will keep springing up to approach you. The older you get by the day, the less toasters you will have. . *Playing 'too' hard to get is the worst thing you should ever start, remember, Nothing lasts forever. If you still doubt, check out the number of matured single ladies 'looking up to GOD FOR A MIRACLE'. . *Never extort things from a guy you don't love, guys always have ways of paying a girl back, either through their FRIENDS or total 'PAID' STRANGERS....BE CAREFUL. . *Never be deceived you can trap a guy through sex. A man will also return to his wife who sex starve him for years once he loves and trust her. You can never win a man over with your body. . *If all you take to the relationship is the mind set to EXTRACT MONEY from him, don't complain if all he ask from you is your body. He has seen you have nothing else to offer... . * Don't be fooled when Guys tell you they have never met a prettier girl, they will say that same thing to an 80year old woman they want to get intimate with. . *A guy always taking you to the SILVER BED, FAST FOOD (pizza in or galitos), MALL AND EVENTS AT CONFERENCE CENTRE / NATIONAL THEATRE is no sign that he loves you, if he doesn't care to ask and PLAN YOUR FUTURE TOGETHER then you are just his 'SOCIAL MATE' and nothing else.... . *If the only time he invites you over is when he needs to cook, clean the house and do his laundry, then just know you are his "executive house help". . *If he avoids meeting your family and close friends then it is an obvious sign he is just playing games with you so wise up.

10 TIPS FOR A YOUTH TO BE SUCCESSFUL

1. Do not depend on your parents'wealth. Someone may come tomorrow to dupe you and you will lose everything. Learn to do things on your own. 2. God has given everyone a talent. Pray about yours, discover it, and work on it. Then it will work out for you. 3. Do not just sit down and ping, tweet, facebook while others are making money with their talents. Be wise for once, the owners of these social networks are using us to make money. 4. It is good to appreciate good things, but learn to appreciate it wisely and stop arguing unnecessarily about football and players. When will people argue about you also? Think about it! 5. Don't feel like a Don for sleeping with too many ladies, they won't make your destiny fulfilled as some are filled with bad luck. 6. Learn to get a lady close to you to be successful as they say: without a woman, a man cannot be successful. 7. Learn to solve problem on your own, it is a good way of making it in life. Don't copy others, tap little from them and modify it. 8.Stop drinking and smoking too much as it may damage your life too much. Do it socially. 9. Learn to have a good heart, help people around you if you have the power as they'll use their heart to bless you. 10. Think about impossible things,try to make it possible. Bigger people started from somewhere. Do remain blessed and stay motivated!!

NICE MOTIVATING STORY

.. Once upon a time,thr was a gal who had 4 boyfriends..... She loved d 4th boyfrnd the most and adorned him wit rich robes and treatd him to d finest of delicacies. She gave him nothing but the best....... She also loved d 3rd boyfrnd very much and was always showing him off to neighbouring kingdoms. Howeva,she feared dat one day he would leave her 4 anoda........ She also loved her 2nd boyfrnd. He was her confidant and was always kind,considerate and patient wit her. Wheneva d gal faced a problem,she could confide in him,and he would help her get thru d difficult times........ The gal's 1st boyfrnd was a very loyal partner and had made great contributns in maintainin her wealth and kingdom. Howeva,she did nt love d 1st boyfrnd,although he loved her deeply,she hardly took notice of him.......... One day,d gal fell ill and she knew her time was short. She thot of her luxurious life and wondered, "I now have 4 boyfrnds wit me,but wen i die,will i be alone?"...... Thus,she askd d 4th boyfrnd, "I loved u d most,endowed u wit d finest clothin and showered great care ova u. Now dat im dyin,will u follow me and kip me company? No way! replied d 4th boyfrnd,and he walked away without anoda word.... His ansa cut like a sharp knife rite into her heart..... The sad gal then askd d 3rd boyfrd " I loved u all my life. Now dat im dyin,will u follow me and kip me company?" NO! replied d frd boyfrnd. Life is too good! Wen u die,i'm going to marry sumone else! Her heart sank and turned cold......... She then askd d 2nd boyfrnd," I have always turned to u 4 help and u've always been thr 4 me. When i die,will u follow me and keep me company?".. I'm sorry,i cant help u out dis time!,replied d 2nd boyfrnd. At d very most,i can only walk wit u to ur grave....... His ansa struck her like a bolt of lightning and d gal was devastated.... Then a voice called out: " I'll go wit u. I'll follow u no mata whr u go".. The gal looked up and thr was her 1st boyfrnd. He was very skinny as he suffered 4rm malnutritn and neglect.... Greatly grieved,d gal said " I shld av taken much beta care of u when i had d chance!"................... Do u knw dat of a truth,we all av 4 boyfrnds in our lives..... Ur 4th boyfrnd is ur BODY. No mata hw much time and effort u lavish in making it luk gd,it will leave u wen u die.... Ur 3rd boyfrnd is ur POSSESSION,STATUS AND WEALTH..Wen u die,it will all go to others...... Ur 2nd boyfrnd is ur FAMILY AND FRIENDS.... No mata hw much they have been there 4 u,the farther they can stay by u is up to ur grave...... And ur 1st boyfrnd is ur SPIRIT..Often neglected in pursuit of wealth,power and pleasure of d world... Howeva,ur spirit is d only thing dat wil follow u whereva u go.... CULTIVATE,STRENGTHEN AND CHERISH IT NOW, FOR IT IS THE ONLY PART OF U DAT WILL FOLLOW YOU TO THE THRONE OF GOD AND CONTINUE WIT U THRUOUT ETERNITY...

LIFE GOES ON

Life, generally is full of ups and down. You might see one down 2day and tomorrow he's up. Such is life! And we must not allow those things to weigh us down. When faced with difficulties on the journey of life,never look at the difficulties as the end of life,instead we must look beyond the difficulties and u will see that in that difficulty, there is an opportunity. When defeat comes,accept it as a signal that your plans are not sound,rebuild those plans and set sail once more toward your coveted goal. Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that someything inside them was superior to circumstances. The first important step in weathering failure or difficult situation is learning not to personalize it-making sure you know that your failure or difficulty does not make you a failure. Do not allow mistakes you make, stops you from moving on because MISTAKES are:- M- Messages that give you feedback about life. I- Interruptions that should cause us to reflect and think. S- Signposts that direct us to the right path. T- Tests that push us toward greater maturity. A- Awakenings that keep us in the game mentally. K- Keys that we can use to unlock the next door of opportunity. E- Explorations that let us journey where we've never been before. S- Statements about our developments and progress. WHEN THERE IS LIFE, THERE IS HOPE

TAKE NOTE

One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big advice on the door on which it was written:

"Yesterday the person who has been hindering your growth in this company passed away. We invite you to join the funeral in the room that has been prepared in the gym".

In the beginning, they all got sad for the death of one of their colleagues, but after a while they started getting curious to know who was that man who hindered the growth of his colleagues and the company itself.

The excitement in the gym was such that security agents were ordered to control the crowd within the room.

The more people reached the coffin, the more the excitement heated up. Everyone thought: "Who is this guy who was hindering my progress? Well, at least he died!".

One by one the thrilled employees got closer to the coffin, and when they looked inside it they suddenly became speechless. They stood nearby the coffin, shocked and in silence, as if someone had touched the deepest part of their soul.

There was a mirror inside the coffin: everyone who looked inside it could see himself.

There was also a sign next to the mirror that said:

"There is only one person who is capable to set limits to your growth: it is YOU.

You are the only person who can revolutionize your life. You are the only person who can influence your happiness, your realization and your success. You are the only person who can help yourself.

Your life does not change when your boss changes, when your friends change, when your parents change, when your partner changes, when your company changes. Your life changes when YOU change, when you go beyond your limiting beliefs, when you realize that you are the only one responsible for your life.

"The most important relationship you can have, is the one you have with yourself"

Examine yourself, watch yourself. Don't be afraid of difficulties, impossibilities­­­ and losses: be a winner, build yourself and your reality.

The world is like a mirror: it gives back to anyone the reflection of the thoughts in which one has strongly believed.

The world and your reality are like mirrors laying in coffins, which show to any individual, the death of his divine capability to imagine and create his happiness and his success.
It's the way you face Life that makes the difference

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