TAKE RESPONSIBILITY

Today is the beginning of the rest of your life. So let’s take it straight to the point. To move on in life, and make the best out of the rest of your life, you must accept the fact that as a human being you are capable of mistakes, even stupid mistakes. So please do not get involved in the blame game today. The idea that whenever things go wrong, it must be him, her or them, but never your fault is worrisome, and antithetical to self-improvement. “Oh she/he made me do it,” “he led me into it,” “if she had explained it well, I wouldn’t be in this mess.” “You were over speeding that’s why you couldn’t wait for me to make a u turn.” “You were driving too slowly that’s why you made me hit your rear.” “The lecturer hates me, that’s why I failed the exam.” “The querry wasn’t because I was late; the manager doesn’t like me.” The list goes on. You know what I’m talking about. Excuses, blame game, passing the buck. It is often our default position. So whenever anything happens, the first instance is to blame someone else. We blame government for our woes, yet others under the same government are doing well without government incentives. When we give excuses for our failure or blame others for our faults and wrong doings, we lose the lesson the incident was intended to teach us. Benjamin Franklin said that those that are good for making excuses are seldom good for anything else. That’s because they spend too much time finding other people to blame, and too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being. Learn to take responsibility for your actions and inactions. Remember, the circumstances of life, the events of life, and the people around you in life do not make you the way you are; they only help you discover who you are; they reveal who you are! Look at it from the positive perspective, the ashes of your failure can be turned into granites to build you a strong future. It all depends on your attitude. Accepting your mistakes does not reduce your worth. Be bold and take responsibility. That is the road to recovery and making the best out of the rest of your life.

DON'T GIVE UP

I often heard people lament how meaningless they thought their life was, and they seem to wallow in obvious frustration and contempt of whatever life holds for them. Having lost the flair and flavour for an exiting life, they appear grumpy, irritated, and easily angered. Moreover, they look up to people and things to find meaning to life in order to reignite the passion there of. Unfortunately because they look up to the wrong source for help, all they hear around them are information that leads to further loss of joy, because your outlook in life depends on what, where, or who you look up to. When you look up to people who themselves are gasping for breath due to their own frustrations, they can only give you what they have. In order to console you, they suck you into their world where they flock together and form pity parties where they remind each other of the problem and the sheer impossibility of a turnaround. They all talk problems, hardship and difficulties, and confess that it won’t get any better, and surely their confession becomes their possession! Sadly, asking for explanation from the wrong source, feeds the inquirer with wrong information whose application leads to error and frustration, so the vicious cycle repeats itself. Bear in mind you are not an accident. There is a blue print for success and stop looking up to people for answer to your life's question, and stop confessing that it won’t get better for you, then look inward and upward for answer, you might see a turnaround sooner. There is a divine purpose and appointment to your life! However, neglect of divine purpose and appointment results in life's disappointment and frustration. Count your blessings, and be grateful. Remember, misery results when mercy is denied. Stop denying your blessings because as long as you continue to believe and confess that you are not blessed, you may likely continue to manifest it. Keep on doing the good thing you are doing; there is a turnaround for you if you don’t give up. Keep in mind that winners don’t quit and quitters don’t win!